anger in ritual

I am trying to process something that happened at our Mabon ritual last Saturday. I would rather NOT think that Chris was accidentally aspecting Hades. I'm not sure I even think that;s possible. The unintentional part. Here's why. He is very angry with me for sort of cutting him off. We had a seriously enmeshed relationship and I had to stop. I just could not go on like that. He was angry at me the day of the ritual because I wouldn't pick him up and he had to take the bus. So, he did not bring any of the things he was supposed to bring to ritual. Being bitchy. I should have had a heads up then. But, I was kinda busy with the whole *hosting ritual for a bunch of other people* thing and I wasn't paying attention to just how pissed off he was.

So, then there was the actual ritual. Which he thought sucked. I did not think so. But, I had a few other perceptions which did not mesh with his as well. I had the most violent emotional reaction to what he said to the girl who was acting the part of Persephone. (We acted out the myth in ritual.) If I had not been one of the co-priestesses I would have walked out! I wanted to HURT him! Really. And the scary thing is, I used to behave in just that way. I have not physically or emotionally hurt anyone in a long while so the urge to do so was QUITE disturbing. He grabbed *Persephone's wrist and when she tried to pull her wrist away, he would not let go. And my reaction was so intense I DO NOT EVEN REMEMBER WHAT HE SAID! Only how I felt while he was saying it.
Then there was the grabbing the hands of the people on either side of him and trying to swing them back and froth to force them to raise energy. What kind of energy would that have been. I told him to stop. The participants were freaked out. No other group around here raises energy and these people had never been to a Reclaiming ritual. I don't really know what happened but I felt threatened and violated and I KNEW what was going on. Maybe that's why. Maybe ignorance IS bliss.
See, thing is, I've been in ritual with experienced priestesses who were TRYING to mes with my head and I have not been freaked out. I have never felt the desire to walk out of ritual. WTF?
Still processing.